When you expect yourself to do more in a day than is humanly possible, you expect more of yourself than even God expects of you.
When you are upset by your poor performance in an area where you haven’t done the hard foundation work, you’re expecting yourself to do miracles.
Doing the impossible is God’s work. Naturally, when you take a stab at it you’re setting yourself up for failure, frustration and overwhelm.
And then you don’t have time to do YOUR work.
So what is your work?
A. Know what you want. This is more difficult that it first seems. Most people need some help clarifying what they really, really want. We’re too often disoriented by what others say we should want, by fears and worries about what’s actually possible, and other mental fog.
B. Design a business model that enables you to have what you want. A business model is essentially a flow of activities, each designed to achieve a specific result. When those results are achieved, you have what you want. The problem most people run into here is overcomplicating what really is simple.
That, and trying to do too much too quickly. As a result you get so caught up in the day-to-day pressures that you forget what you really want. (See A above.)
C. Make your top priorities clear. The problem here is that most people flit from one activity to another because their priorities are not clear. And the reason they’re not clear is because A above isn’t clear and B is too complicated. So they flit.
D. If you manage to get to D, now you need to flout Life’s obsessive efforts to derail you. That’s Life’s job: to gently and persistently nudge you off track. Some days it’s like walking a narrow mountain path, just over a cliff with mighty winds all around you. This usually boils down to people and events. But it’s really about how you “explain” those people and events. The “story” you tell yourself. You need a mentor or coach who has mastered the ways of thinking and being that you want to master.
E. Finally, build system as you go. Otherwise you’re always reinventing the wheel. And what’s more frustrating than building towers on quicksand.
All this, it appears to me, is your work. And my work.
And if you’re struggling to stop doing God’s work and stick to your own, do make sure you get some help.
If mystyle and and way of thinking appeals to you, then go request a free 15 minute “Consistent Flow of Clients” Strategy Chat. It’s a way for us to begin to get to know each other, and we’ll see where that leads.
Dov Gordon
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